I would like to propose a new kind of resolution as we begin the new year — resolutions that have none of the guilt that most of our pledges arise from after the weeks of excess during the holiday season. We feel guilty about all the rich food that we have eaten, our lack of exercise and physical activity, all the liquid Christmas cheer that we have imbibed, and all the money that we have spent. Our guilt inspires impassioned vows to exercise regularly, to eat a healthy diet, to detox our bodies, to live within a budget, to pay off our credit cards… to make any number of surface changes that we hope will make us feel better about ourselves.
Guilt-inspired resolutions are doomed to fail. You and I both know this. We start off with great determination and gusto, and before long, our efforts begin to wane and we find ourselves back where we started from. Then we feel even worse about ourselves because we couldn’t sustain changes that we thought we could make from the outside in. The key to lasting change for our happiness and well-being is to initiate change from the inside out.
With this in mind, I would like to propose the following resolutions:
- Every day, choose to love yourself. Don’t just brush this aside. This is the most important work that you can do to begin to come from an inner space of strength and resilience. For years, I resisted this inner work because I believed it to be self-centred. What I didn’t realize was that I couldn’t truly love another unconditionally or be the loving person that I wanted to be until I could come from a place of love within myself. I couldn’t find my own inner strength and power until I truly loved me and opened into the love that I am. Do the mirror work that Louise L. Hay suggests. Each day, look at yourself in the mirror and say, “I love you.” Look deeply in your own eyes and smile with tenderness and true caring back at YOU. It will feel uncomfortable at first, but persist. You will begin to feel your inner self responding to your affirmations of love. When you look into your own eyes, you will see and feel the response within you. Imagine the year that you will have as you begin to come from an inner space of self-love instead of self-criticism and judgment.
- Choose to see who you really are. You are not the body that you see in the mirror. You are not the separate individual that your ego would have you believe. You are a beautiful spiritual being, just as I am, just as everyone is. That means that we are all one beyond the illusion of separation created by our bodies. There is no boundary where my energy ends and yours begins. My energy is connected to your energy, and our energy is connected to the energy of all living beings through the incredible matrix of Divine energy. We are all spiritual sisters and brothers — all perfect expressions of the universal Love that is God. Just consider for a moment how empowering this knowledge is! You are not the scared, little individual who is tossed about by the winds of fortune and fate. You, my dear, are powerful beyond measure. You are created as an expression of Divine Love, and there is no power greater than love. Embrace who you really are and step fully into your true identity. You will find the joy, peace, and love that everyone aspires to find.
- When you recognize and remember who you really are, you can make another choice, which is the third resolution — choose love over fear. Fear and mistrust of others arises from the egoic perception that we are separate and that we have to protect ourselves from attack by others. This belief in separation and the resulting fear that it evokes creates the judgment, hatred, prejudice, and violence that we witness in the world. When we know who we really are as children of God, as spiritual beings created by Divine Light and Love, we can choose differently. God is Love, and as expressions of His Divine Love, we are also love. When we choose to come from the love that we are, we begin to perceive and experience more love in the world. How is this possible? Like attracts like. When you choose to look at the world through lenses of fear, the energy you emit has a low frequency. This frequency attracts negative emotions and experiences, which have like frequencies. When you choose to look at the world through lenses of love, you emit energy of high frequency, which attracts positive emotions and experiences. You can change your experience of the world by choosing love over fear. Imagine the power of this choice to transform your life!
That’s it — three resolutions that begin with inner work and that will empower you to create true and joyful change in your life. When love is your guide for how you see yourself and for how you see others and the world, you will feel good about yourself. You will know your worth, and your light will shine from the inside out for all to see. You will radiate the energy of the love that you are. Namaste, my dears. :))