I often use stream-of-consciousness writing to find illumination and clarity when I am experiencing internal struggle. I want to share the wisdom that came through in my writing today.
Dear Beloved, please talk to me about unconditional love and forgiveness.
You want love to be easy and a continuing sequence of moments in which you feel loved, adored, and nurtured. When that doesn’t happen, you call foul and retreat to lick your wounds. That is conditional love — love based on what another gives you and how that person makes you feel. Everything is wonderful and loving when you feel good, and not so wonderful or loving when you don’t feel good.
Unconditional love is seeing who the other person is soul-deep, beneath the layers of ego, and recognizing your spiritual connection — your brotherhood. Ego will always serve to misguide you when it comes to how you perceive others because ego is based on fear and separation. It is based on asking what you can get and how you can protect what you’ve got so that another doesn’t take it from you. It is based on how you can get more of whatever makes you feel good in the moment. There may well be moments when you feel the powerful energy of love because you feel so good, but what happens when things don’t go your way and you don’t feel good anymore? Do you lash out, criticize, attack, withdraw, hold resentments within you? This is conditional love — love based on how someone makes you feel.
Unconditional love begins with recognizing who you are as a Child of God — a perfect expression of Divine Love. Unconditional love is you embracing your true identity beneath the illusions of ego… and you recognizing the true identity of everyone else. What is in you is in everyone. Unconditional love is allowing, opening yourself to being a channel for Divine Love — love that says I see who you truly are, and I embrace you as my soul sister or brother.
What happens when I feel wronged or hurt by the egoic actions of another? How can I forgive with unconditional love?
Recognize that if you believe you can be wronged or hurt, you are identifying with ego. Your true self is eternal and cannot be hurt in any way. Recognize that what you perceive as a wrong or an injustice or a hurt is an illusion that can be corrected and forgiven. In truth, nothing can harm who you really are.
What if I see who another truly is beneath the layers of ego and I want a relationship with the beautiful soul that person really is, but he/she is still totally identified with egoic thinking?
Love them and release them to experience their journeys. Unconditional love is loving others when they come into your life, and when your journeys must diverge, allowing them to go with love. Anything else is conditional and controlling. Wanting others to be a certain way and to fulfill certain requirements places conditions on your love. You are trying to control another for your own self-interests. You want the beautiful love you experience when they are identified with their true selves, but you don’t want the negativity and insanity of their egos. This is conditional love. Release them and allow them to go with love so that they can experience their journeys, which are theirs to take. Unconditional love is the love that God has for you. No matter what choices you have made in your life, God’s Love for you has remained true. God has loved you through it all, as you have experienced your journey and as you have exercised your free will. There are no conditions to God’s Love, no attempts to control or demand, only recognition of who you are as His Child, in spite of what you say and do at the level of ego, and all-encompassing love for you. God allows you to experience your journey in your own way with total love for you. This is how you are called to love — unconditionally.
You asked about unconditional love and forgiveness. Forgiveness means realizing that anything you experience as “not love” is happening at the level of ego and is the result of mistaken perceptions, which can be corrected. Whenever you feel uncertain or conflicted, return to the inner truth and knowing of your soul. Ask for guidance to be able to recognize the misperception and release it. Ground yourself in your soul and open to the unconditional love that is there, that is you, and allow it to fill you and flow from you out into the world.
Unconditional love means that you recognize the spiritual truth of another and your eternal connection at the soul level. Forgiveness is recognizing when ego gets in the way and correcting any misperceptions that temporary identification with ego creates.
Be the Love that you are. That is truth. Everything else is illusion and can be corrected and forgiven.
My dear spiritual sisters and brothers, I pray that you will find guidance and truth in the wisdom that flowed through in my writing today. Namaste, my dears. :))