Learning to Be
I want to celebrate an important milestone on my inner journey with you. I am opening into just being, and it feels wonderful! I have always allowed myself to be ruled by a steady stream of “shoulds” and “have tos” in my mind, and at long last, I am able to release and allow myself to just be. I sensed that I needed to do this as summer holidays beckoned and colleagues talked about their summer plans. Whenever I was asked about my plans, my answer was always the same, “I want time to just be.” I hadn’t given my response a lot of thought; it just rose from within me. As it was expressed, I knew it was what I needed to do. And that is exactly what the first two weeks of my summer break have been all about. Extended periods of time along our walking paths every day have provided me […]
The Freedom of Releasing Control and Learning to Allow
I have made a pact with myself, a pact that is bringing such peace and freedom into my life, that I wonder why it took me so long to accept its importance. My pact is very simple; I release my need to control life and allow life to flow. I have been a “control freak” perfectionist most of my life. Everything had to be done according to my notions of “perfect,” and the one that I was hardest on in this elusive quest for perfection was me. I felt that I needed to take care of every detail so that things were done “right.” That pursuit had a high cost because I demanded 110% of myself for every single thing that I did. I wasn’t content with 90% or even 100%. I had to push myself to give more than was possible or expected so that I could live up […]
Honour Your True Self
When you get an opportunity to have time to yourself, do you struggle with a seemingly endless list of things you think you should be doing? What is there about caring for, and spending time with, ourselves that sends our self-guilt into overdrive? Has our family and social conditioning been so effective that we believe that our first priority always has to be something or someone else? Or, are we avoiding the most important relationship in our lives — the one with ourselves?
Only We, Ourselves, Can Make Life Better for Us
Have you ever believed that someone else could make your life better for you — that somehow, in some way, attaching your life to someone else was the secret to a full and happy life? Have you imagined your “dream come true” or your “life happily ever after” because being with someone else was going to make it better? I certainly did… three times. And three times, I had to restart and find healing and my way forward on my own. I think I have finally realized the lesson. First of all, I attached my dreams for my happy future to a man whom I met while I attended the University of Sydney in Australia. He was my first love, and when my year of studies was done and I had to return to Canada, I focused all my energies on working and earning enough money to return to Australia […]
Are you feeling burned out from your work week and all of the demands placed on you? Do you feel like you need a way to restore yourself beyond a Saturday morning sleep-in and time to actually sit and drink your morning coffee? I have a no-cost suggestion for you that is certain to uplift and recharge you. Get outside. Find somewhere you can go that allows you to connect with nature — walking paths, hiking trails, a park, your backyard, any green space — so that you can feel the earth and the kiss of sunlight on your skin, and you can fill your lungs with fresh air. Move — stroll, power walk, jog, run, rollerblade, bike — move in a way that feels comfortable for you. It really doesn’t matter how you move; it just matters that you move your body in the fresh air and feel the […]
Contemplating the Power of My Expectations
I spent time reflecting on the following passage from Chapter 9, Section II, Paragraph 5 of the Text of A Course in Miracles this week:
The message your brother gives you is up to you. What does he say to you? What would you have him say? Your decision about him determines the message you receive.
The message my brother gives me is up to me? My decision about him determines the message I receive? I knew the truth in these words as soon as I read them, and I realized that knowing their truth placed responsibility on me for embodying this truth in my life.
Creating Spiritual Family With You
It has been my hope and prayer since I began this blog that, together, we can create a community in which we all feel recognized, supported, and loved unconditionally, and in which we can open ourselves up to share our light, our healing, and our spiritual openings. My dream is to create a very real experience of the spiritual family of which we are all a part, whether we recognize it or not. I would like to share a message I received from my dear spiritual Brother, Hart, and which he has given me permission to share with you. I have read your last few posts with alacrity and have felt most moved and inspired. As you express your ideas, you see, you are giving me voice and opening that space inside me that is in silence, yet responds so deeply to the ideas and metaphors and descriptions you provide me ( and […]
Learning to be Present and to Receive
Yesterday, I had the opportunity to practise my deeper understanding of awareness in a profound way. Over the past few years, I have grown used to doing things for myself and to be proud of my independence. In fact, I have embraced my independence so much that it is hard for me to ask anyone for help. I know that one of the lessons I still have to learn is how to receive… gracefully and openly. Giving is so natural for me, but it has become more and more apparent that I need to practise receiving. What happened yesterday that links my need to learn how to receive with my deepening awareness of who I am beyond the rise and fall of emotions, thoughts, and sensory input? I had to have a growth removed surgically from within my foot. In my “proud-to-be-independent” mind, I told myself that I could handle […]
“A-HA” Moment Two — Gaining Insight into Awareness
In my last post, I shared with you the first of two “A-Ha” moments I experienced during the past week. In this post, I want to share with you the second one, for which my gratitude goes to Michael A. Singer, author of the untethered soul — the journey beyond yourself. His writing led me to a profound realization that has freed me from worrying about the emotional pain and anger that continues to arise within me from time to time. Because it continues to be triggered by people and events in my life, I have worried about the extent of my healing and my ability to forgive. I have stressed about my seeming inability to move forward on my spiritual journey. Through Michael’s words of wisdom, I have realized that this pain and anger arises, but it also fades. It comes and it goes, but it isn’t who I […]