Children

In Honour of Fathers Who Choose to Be Dads

I will always remember the wise words of a young girl as she explained the names she used for her step-father and her father. She used Dad to refer to her step-father and Father to refer to her biological father, because “anyone can be a father; not everyone is a real dad.” I thought of her innocent wisdom often during the years in which my own children ached for their father to choose to be a dad and to put them first. I write this letter on behalf of children who yearn for dads they can truly honour on Father’s Day and who put them first every day.

Releasing Self-Created Stories

It seems that this holiday season is ripe with realizations for me, and it is my prayer that in sharing what I am learning that you will find some clarity and healing too. As the time approaches for celebrating Christmas with family and loved ones, instead of brimming over with anticipation, different emotions seem to be rising within me. Tears flowed again and again as I decorated the tree and as I prepared homemade favourites for my children. Feelings of loneliness and isolation rose within me as I began my two-week break from teaching. Dread and resistance rise within me as I think of time with my parents and siblings. What is there for me to realize and learn from these emotions?

The Gift within the Experience of Emotional Pain During the Holidays

How many of us experience the pain of loss, loneliness, and sadness as the festive season builds all around us? We are flooded with pictures that portray the excitement and anticipation of the perfect Christmas, the perfect family get-togethers, and the perfect holiday season. Each picture projects images of loving families, perfect gifts, and an abundance of happiness and togetherness. And each picture feels like one more stab in the heart of people who are grieving, recovering from traumas that kicked their feet out from under them, or experiencing a seemingly less-than-picture-perfect physical reality.

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In Honour of Fathers Who Choose to be Dads

I will always remember the wise words of a young girl as she explained the names she used for her step-father and her father. She used Dad to refer to her step-father and Father to refer to her biological father, because “anyone can be a father; not everyone is a real dad.” I thought of her innocent wisdom often during the years in which my own children ached for their father to choose to be a dad and to put them first. I write this letter on behalf of children who yearn for dads they can truly honour on Father’s Day and who put them first every day.

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A Tribute to Motherhood

  I dedicate this post to mothers everywhere — new mothers, experienced mothers, grandmothers and great-grandmothers, those who yearn to be mothers, and those who just naturally mother all living beings in their lives. Motherhood opens wide our hearts, and teaches us about unconditional love… love that truly surpasses all understanding, love that recognizes the beauty of another’s inner light and finds its expression in giving and nurturing. Motherhood strengthens our hearts to withstand the agony of worry and the pain of witnessing our children’s hurt, and not being able to do anything other than hold them and shelter them from the stormy winds of life. Motherhood tempers our hearts with understanding and compassion so that we learn what it is to truly listen without judgement or the need to fix, so that we learn to witness and guide our children’s journeys to finding who they are. Motherhood fortifies our […]

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Creating Spiritual Family With You

It has been my hope and prayer since I began this blog that, together, we can create a community in which we all feel recognized, supported, and loved unconditionally, and in which we can open ourselves up to share our light, our healing, and our spiritual openings. My dream is to create a very real experience of the spiritual family of which we are all a part, whether we recognize it or not. I would like to share a message I received from my dear spiritual Brother, Hart, and which he has given me permission to share with you. I have read your last few posts with alacrity and have felt most moved and inspired. As you express your ideas, you see, you are giving me voice and opening that space inside me that is in silence, yet responds so deeply to the ideas and metaphors and descriptions you provide me ( and […]

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To All Women and Children

This post is dedicated to Latasha, Landen, Jenika, and Janayah Gosling, and to all women and children who need support, safety, and healing. The news of a murder-suicide in my small community of Tisdale, Saskatchewan, sent shock waves through us all. The incomprehensible had happened in our peaceful, little community. A young mother and her three beautiful, innocent children had been murdered by the man with whom she had been in a relationship. Then he had travelled to Prince Albert, a small city about 130 kilometres from Tisdale, with the six-month-old baby that he and the mother had shared, where he took his own life. The baby was found alive beside his body. How could this have happened? I think back to the morning that I learned what had happened. It had seemed like any other morning. The sun was shining brightly, just as it had every morning for the […]

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Learning to be Present and to Receive

Yesterday, I had the opportunity to practise my deeper understanding of awareness in a profound way. Over the past few years, I have grown used to doing things for myself and to be proud of my independence. In fact, I have embraced my independence so much that it is hard for me to ask anyone for help. I know that one of the lessons I still have to learn is how to receive… gracefully and openly. Giving is so natural for me, but it has become more and more apparent that I need to practise receiving. What happened yesterday that links my need to learn how to receive with my deepening awareness of who I am beyond the rise and fall of emotions, thoughts, and sensory input? I had to have a growth removed surgically from within my foot. In my “proud-to-be-independent” mind, I told myself that I could handle […]

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Layers of Self-Judgement Exposed

The process of self-awareness — uncovering and correcting the limiting beliefs and self-judgements that trip us up — has been compared to “peeling an onion.” We uncover scars and false perceptions layer by layer, and as we pull back each layer, we discover yet another layer to be examined, understood, healed, and peeled back. Sometimes I wonder how I created so many layers of self-judgement and whether I will ever arrive at my “inner onion,” divested of all the layers that hold me back. Last weekend was a holiday weekend in Canada — Thanksgiving — a time for families to gather together and to appreciate one another and all the blessings in their lives. When I lived the classic portrayal of the happy, loving family, I anticipated family holidays with relish and spent a great deal of time planning and preparing for them. It was a time to bask in the image of […]

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