In Honour of Fathers Who Choose to Be Dads
I will always remember the wise words of a young girl as she explained the names she used for her step-father and her father. She used Dad to refer to her step-father and Father to refer to her biological father, because “anyone can be a father; not everyone is a real dad.” I thought of her innocent wisdom often during the years in which my own children ached for their father to choose to be a dad and to put them first. I write this letter on behalf of children who yearn for dads they can truly honour on Father’s Day and who put them first every day.
Who Are Our Greatest Teachers?
When you think of teachers, do you think of people presenting lessons in classrooms and lecture halls? Do you think of those people who helped you understand new concepts and master new skills for success in life? Do you include coaches and instructors beyond the classroom and the world of work? We can all identify the people who have filled these roles in our lives, but do we include those who have inspired or challenged us to grow and deepen within?
Honour the Gifts of Growth
Pause for a moment and look back — you are not who you were when your inner journey began. You have been stretched and moulded in unexpected and wonderful ways — ways that you had no way of anticipating before your journey began. You have traveled through the fires of life, and they have forged someone deeper and wider within, someone who is more at peace and in tune with inner guidance, someone who has begun to take notice of the gifts within each challenge and loss. Pause for a moment and appreciate all the pain-filled moments in which you felt ripped apart, the hot tears of grief and anguish that you cried, and the dark times during which you felt lost and alone. They provided the impetus for your growth and expansion. Pause for a moment and give thanks for the people who frustrated you and kept you tossing and turning […]
What Easter Means to Me
Easter — another holiday weekend with religious origins, but what is it all about? The significance of the crucifixion and resurrection of Jesus Christ seems to get lost in stories about the coming of the Easter bunny and Easter egg hunts. I have always deeply felt the darkness of Good Friday and the beautiful promise of Easter Sunday, from the time I was very young, but it has only been since A Course in Miracles came into my life that I have found what I believe to be the true teaching of the crucifixion and resurrection. Allow me to share what Easter has come to mean to me, thanks to the wisdom of the teachings in A Course in Miracles. On the surface, the crucifixion seems to demonstrate the worst of attacks upon the man who proclaimed himself the Son of God. Jesus, who taught about God’s Love and who […]
Forgiveness Is More Than a One-Shot Deal
How many times do we need to forgive before there are no more layers of hurt and betrayal to peel back? I can’t give you a definitive answer. It seems trite to say as many times as you need to forgive, but it is true. I have been working on forgiving those with whom I have experienced the greatest hurts for years now, and I’m still not there. I still haven’t reached a place where there is nothing left to forgive… where I can say with complete truth that I hold nothing but love in my heart for them. If I told you that all I ever feel is love when I think of these people, I would be lying to you and to myself. I can tell you that there are times when I genuinely feel compassion, understanding, and love for them, but then when I least expect it… more […]
Can the Season of Winter Guide Our Inner Growth?
With the first significant snowfalls over the past week, it seems there’s no getting around it. Winter is here to stay in my part of the world… for several months. As children and youth celebrate the opportunity to play in fresh snow and to get out on snowmobiles, I mentally brace myself for the long months of freezing temperatures, windchill, and barren landscapes. I resign myself to going to work in the dark and coming home in the dark, and joking about feeling like a mole. But, is there another way to look at winter? Does it have to be a season to which we resign ourselves? Is it possible that winter can also be our teacher? Can we gain wisdom and understanding through observation and contemplation instead of perceiving it through jaded eyes? Winter is a time when much of the natural world lies dormant here… a time when seemingly nothing happens. Beneath a […]
Learning to Set Boundaries
For much of my life, I allowed other people to run over me. When someone asked me to do something, even if I didn’t have the time or desire to do it, I acquiesced and did whatever was asked of me. I gave myself stern talks about learning to say no and standing up for myself. I watched other people say no without the world crashing in around them, and I told myself that I could do it too. I knew the cost of not being able to say no. I knew the sinking feeling in my stomach after I said yes, and I confronted the reality of taking on something I didn’t want to do or that I didn’t have time to do. I would give myself a mental grab by the shoulders, take a deep breath, and find a way to do the thing I had felt compelled […]