The Trust Implicit in Transition
When we are faced with change in our lives, it seems that many of us resist and cling to what is known… even if that no longer serves us. We are filled with fear because change requires that we let go of the edge that we are so familiar with and dive into unknown waters. Letting go and entering these waters requires trust. It requires trust in every moment, every single day… and I am living that call to trust.
The Spiritual Journey Inherent in Change
It seems that change is inevitable in our lives. In fact, if you are like me, when life settles and becomes known, you yearn for change and the growth that comes with it. If you are like me in another way, when you are in the midst of change and everything is in a state of flux, you yearn for the security of what was known. Sometimes I wonder why I can’t be content with routine, with what is known. But there is something within me that calls for change and yearns for the expansion that accompanies it.
In Honour of Fathers Who Choose to Be Dads
I will always remember the wise words of a young girl as she explained the names she used for her step-father and her father. She used Dad to refer to her step-father and Father to refer to her biological father, because “anyone can be a father; not everyone is a real dad.” I thought of her innocent wisdom often during the years in which my own children ached for their father to choose to be a dad and to put them first. I write this letter on behalf of children who yearn for dads they can truly honour on Father’s Day and who put them first every day.
What Is True Safety and Security?
What happens when we yearn for change and growth in our lives, and suddenly, we are presented with the opportunity for which we have longed? If you are like me, an inner part of you responds with an excited “Yes, yes, yes!” Then fear kicks in, and your mind starts its flurry of all the reasons why you should retreat and stay where all is known — its version of safe and secure.
How Does True Forgiveness Feel?
Those of you who have followed my blog for a while know that I have struggled to practise forgiveness in my life. At first, it was a way for me to release emotional baggage that was weighing me down and keeping me stuck in negativity and blame. Then, as I opened into awareness of my spiritual identity, it became vitally important to me to truly forgive those whom I believed had hurt me and to be able to love them unconditionally. I wanted to be able to think of them and feel only love – no blame, no judgment, no hurt – only love. Each time, I thought that I had forgiven, events occurred to show me that even though my intent was to forgive, I hadn’t reached a state of true forgiveness.
Do We Create Our Own Emotional Pain?
Have you believed that you experienced hurt because of the actions and words of another? Have you experienced fear that you will be hurt again? Have you erected inner walls to protect yourself from further betrayal and emotional pain? If you are like me, you can answer a resounding yes to each of these questions. I am beginning to realize that because I believed that others had the power to hurt me, I created circumstances in which I experienced recurring emotional pain.
Who Are Our Greatest Teachers?
When you think of teachers, do you think of people presenting lessons in classrooms and lecture halls? Do you think of those people who helped you understand new concepts and master new skills for success in life? Do you include coaches and instructors beyond the classroom and the world of work? We can all identify the people who have filled these roles in our lives, but do we include those who have inspired or challenged us to grow and deepen within?
See Fear For What It Is
Do you seek change in your life? Do you yearn to do and experience more? Do you want to embrace life fully and completely and yet… when that change beckons or when opportunities arise, you shrink from them because of the fear that causes your heart to hammer and your chest to constrict?
Knowing God for Yourself
Are you called to read the writings of spiritual teachers? Do you find yourself eagerly pouncing on their newest offerings, hungry for the words that will take you further on your spiritual quest? Do you note the people whom these teachers quote as further sources for your search? These questions capture my quest over a period of many years. I kept searching and searching, moving from one spiritual teacher to another, digging deeper and developing my understanding of their teachings, but always deferring to these teachers to tell me about God and to inform me about the Divine.
Nothing Can Harm the “I Am” That Is Our True Identity
A powerful realization arose within me this week: nothing can hurt my true identity as the spiritual being that I am. Indeed, nothing has ever hurt the “I am” that I am. When I act from the belief that I have been hurt or harmed in any way, I am identifying with ego – with the individual identity I have created in which I perceive myself as separate from you and from everyone else.