Fear Only Has the Power That We Give It
It seems that I have allowed fear and all of its manifestations — self-doubt, insecurity, self-blame, guilt, self-criticism and judgment — to have far too much power in my life. You see, I believed that fear was something beyond my control; that I was at the mercy of frightening events that could happen to me. I didn’t realize that I was the only one giving fear its power over me. In fact, fear has no power over us, unless we give it.
New Year’s Resolutions with a Twist
I would like to propose a new kind of resolution as we begin the new year — resolutions that have none of the guilt that most of our pledges arise from after the weeks of excess during the holiday season. We feel guilty about all the rich food that we have eaten, our lack of exercise and physical activity, all the liquid Christmas cheer that we have imbibed, and all the money that we have spent. Our guilt inspires impassioned vows to exercise regularly, to eat a healthy diet, to detox our bodies, to live within a budget, to pay off our credit cards… to make any number of surface changes that we hope will make us feel better about ourselves.
My Christmas Prayer for You
May we open into the truth of who we are at the soul level. May we embrace our true identities as spiritual sisters and brothers, as radiant expressions of Divine Love, one with the universal consciousness of God. May we open into the call of our souls to explore what that truth means in our lives. In each moment, may we choose to look through the lenses of love so that we may recognize Christ within one another — our Oneness — beneath the illusions of separateness with which the ego would beguile and deceive us. May we embrace one another with unconditional love that sees beyond the clouded and fearful images that our egos would have us perceive. In spite of what may have happened in our lives and the various ways by which we may feel hurt and betrayed, may we choose to see the truth of our brothers and sisters beneath the veil of sin that our egos would have them wear. May we […]
Profound Inner Guidance
New responsibilities in my position at work are challenging my fears and insecurities and bringing me face-to-face with more inner work that I need to do. You see, the classroom is my comfort zone, and it is there with my students that I feel secure in the community that we create together and confident in the learning opportunities that I create and present for them. My new responsibilities take me beyond the classroom and involve planning and presenting professional development for my colleagues. Suddenly, the confident, competent teacher falls prey to anxiety that confronts her at every turn — anxiety that plays constant messages of self-doubt and perceived judgment. My old nemesis is back — fear of knowing and embracing my own worth. What learning is there in this for me? As my mind filled with anxious rehashing of what had happened prior to and during my first presentation to staff, I received a clear, direct soul message that told me exactly what I need to do.
What You Seek Is Reflected Back to You
It is easy to think of this as a fearful world. All we have to do is watch the news at any hour on any day to see one crime, wrongdoing, or violent act after another. It is easy to fall prey to the seductive beckoning and propagation of fear. It is easy to fall into the belief that we need to protect ourselves and all that is ours against inevitable attack. It is what we are fed, hour after hour, day after day — a steady diet of fear, attack, and retribution.
Do I Choose Engagement or Observation?
I always thought that I wanted to engage fully in life and to experience each moment to the fullest. I always believed that it was better to be fully engaged in every experience that life brought me than to be an observer of life. I thought engagement equaled active living and observation equaled passive living, and in my mind, active living was the only choice. I find myself questioning what I always thought and believed.
The Peace Test
How can you be sure that you are going the right way in life? None of wants to commit to a path and then discover that we made the wrong decision. We all want to feel certain about the steps we decide to take or the way in which we are going. There is one sure way that we can know for sure. It is the peace test, and it comes from Chapter 14, XI, 5:2 in A Course in Miracles: “If you are wholly free of fear of any kind, and if all those who meet or even think of you share in your perfect peace, then you can be sure that you have learned God’s lesson, and not your own.”
Spring or Winter — Renewal or Death — Love or Fear?
Happy Spring to everyone who lives in the Northern Hemisphere, and especially to anyone who is emerging from the long months of winter to the promise of spring! The warmth of the sun’s rays and the lengthening daylight hours ignite a palpable yearning for the first sightings of new growth and GREEN. We long to throw off the darkness and cold of winter when we retreat from the starkness and seeming death of our environment. At the beginning of winter, I always welcome the cozy “burrowing in” that happens as we retreat to the warmth and light of our homes. It feels good to nestle in, but after several months, that feeling becomes a soul-deep yearning for the life-affirming changes that spring brings. Yesterday, as I enjoyed the intoxicating freshness of the spring winds and the pungent smells of the earth yielding its frozen bonds to the liberating caresses of […]
Going Deeper with Changing Our Thoughts
Last week, I wrote about having the power to control our thoughts. I shared my post with fellow students of A Course in Miracles, and thanks to their feedback and the clarity I received from further reflection and study this week, I want to correct and go deeper with what I wrote for you in the following paragraph: We do have the power to control our thoughts. Instead of letting our ego minds run away with our thoughts, we need to take control with our spiritual minds. How do we do this? We develop awareness of what is preoccupying our thoughts, one thought at a time. When a negative thought crosses our minds, we need to recognize it, stop it, and experience the stillness that is left when there is no thought… if only briefly, until the next thought comes, which will happen quickly at first. The spaces between thoughts will become longer […]
Do You Feel Like You Don’t Belong?
Do you feel like you are on the outside looking in? Does it seem like everyone else finds their place within the ebb and flow of life, but you just can’t seem to find yours? Do you yearn to find a place where it feels that you fit, but it seems that belonging is a state for everyone else but you? After years of feeling this way, I have come to two realizations which I share with you in the hope that either one or both can be of some assistance and reassurance to you. We feel like we don’t belong when we search for validation of our worth from others and we don’t get it. We want to feel like we are “somebody,” and we look to others to make us feel valued. We try so hard to feel acceptance and recognition of our worth from others. We try to […]