Tag: free will
You Have Power Over Your Thoughts
A line in Lesson 44 of A Course in Miracles struck a deep chord within me this week: “Your thoughts cannot hold you to the world unless you give them the power to do so.” Left unchecked, our ego minds play endless tapes of criticism and judgment. How often do our unconscious thoughts assign blame and try to make someone else the “bad guy”? How frequently do we look for what’s wrong with others? This stream of blame, criticism, and judgment reflects our ego’s insatiable need to build up its shaky sense of self. We have to remember that all judgement is part of the ego’s world. The ego mind uses judgment to create separation between itself and others. It casts blame with the insane belief that it has to attack first to ensure its survival. The ego mind recognizes only other egos, and being like itself, the ego mind believes that if it doesn’t attack first, other egos will […]
Was Help Actually Wanted?
I have been a helper and a fixer all my life. Whenever I saw someone who was hurting or who needed help in any way, I was quick to be there in whatever way I could. I offered help, advice, my shoulder, my time… whatever I could think of to lift another up and to provide the help that was so obviously needed… in my eyes. I never stopped to consider whether the person actually wanted help or fixing. That never occurred to me. In my mind, the person needed help, and I could provide it… or at the very least, show that I cared. That had to help, right? Wrong. I assumed that I knew what another needed and that I would come to the rescue. I was there to fill that need, to whatever extent I could. I recognize that my heart was in the right place, but my […]