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Honour the Gifts of Growth

Pause for a moment and look back —  you are not who you were when your inner journey began. You have been stretched and moulded in unexpected and wonderful ways —  ways that you had no way of anticipating before your journey began. You have traveled through the fires of life, and they have forged someone deeper and wider within, someone who is more at peace and in tune with inner guidance, someone who has begun to take notice of the gifts within each challenge and loss. Pause for a moment and appreciate all the pain-filled moments in which you felt ripped apart, the hot tears of grief and anguish that you cried, and the dark times during which you felt lost and alone. They provided the impetus for your growth and expansion. Pause for a moment and give thanks for the people who frustrated you and kept you tossing and turning […]

Prayer of Thanksgiving

Dear God,
Thank you for loving me through it all —
through all the times I thought I could do things my own way;
through all the wrong turns and stubborn choices that I made in spite of my inner guidance;
through my misguided determination to figure things out for myself.


Thank you

I just want to say a huge and heartfelt thank you to the thousands of people who have subscribed to my blog posts. I wrestled with writing about my experiences and what I had learned from them for a long time before I made my first post public. Should I reveal myself so publicly? Would anyone want to read about my experiences? Beneath my self-doubts, I felt a continual internal pull toward doing the very thing I kept sidestepping. Finally, with a deep breath and a fervent hope that I could help even one other person, I began writing. Every single day, more of you subscribe to my posts, and I am humbled by this continuing process… truly humbled. I feel a great sense of obligation to all of you to continue to write about what I am learning and realizing with as much insight, integrity, and truth as I can. The one thing […]


In Recognition and Celebration of Beginnings

Have you ever stopped to think about the power of beginnings in your life? As I look back on my life, there have been many beginnings… the beginning of life as an adult and then as a teacher, the beginning of life as a wife and then as a mother, the beginning of life as a single parent, the beginning of life as an individual standing strong in her own worth and light… and I realize that the list is endless. Within each beginning that stands as a major turning point in my life, there are a multitude of other beginnings. Each beginning holds within it moments defined by tiny beginnings that build to create real change and learning in our lives. Each tiny beginning is the first time we make a step that is unfamiliar to us, that takes courage, and that, in many cases, somehow rises from a tiny seed of strength […]


Learning to Set Boundaries

For much of my life, I allowed other people to run over me. When someone asked me to do something, even if I didn’t have the time or desire to do it, I acquiesced and did whatever was asked of me. I gave myself stern talks about learning to say no and standing up for myself. I watched other people say no without the world crashing in around them, and I told myself that I could do it too. I knew the cost of not being able to say no. I knew the sinking feeling in my stomach after I said yes, and I confronted the reality of taking on something I didn’t want to do or that I didn’t have time to do. I would give myself a mental grab by the shoulders, take a deep breath, and find a way to do the thing I had felt compelled […]


Relationships Provide Our Greatest Teachers: Part Two — Friendships

As I continue my reflections about the teachers who taught me my greatest lessons, my thoughts turn to my dearest friends. Their lessons have come wrapped in shoulders to cry on, arms to hold me, ears to listen, lips to affirm and witness, and hearts to care and believe in me until I was ready to believe in myself. Think about who comes to mind as you read. Consider the lessons your friends have taught you and reflect on their meaning in your life. What priceless lessons have I learned from my friends? They have extended my definition of family from the one I was born into to a more expanded version composed of those who have held me up, believed in me during my darkest days, and given me the strength to stand on my own. They are the champions who celebrated each step I made forward, who cheered me […]


Relationships Provide Our Greatest Teachers: Part One – Romantic Relationships

When you think of teachers, do you think of teachers you had in school? Does your mind return to days of lessons and assignments, and of the person at the front of the room who was responsible for setting the homework and due dates you dreaded? I want to expand your understanding of “teacher,” this from someone who wears a “teacher hat” every day in the classroom. My greatest teachers weren’t my classroom teachers; instead they appeared to teach me priceless lessons in this learning experience called life. My most profound lessons came wrapped in pain and loss, but under the wrapping was true growth that expanded who I am, and for that, I am eternally grateful. As broken as I felt after my ex-husband turned on me and my marriage imploded, I realize that his actions and choices caused me to grow beyond anything I had the capacity to […]

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