“You Will Look Upon That Which You Feel Within”
Has anyone else been feeling unsettled and restless? Have you felt unhappy and out of sorts? Since I have returned to work after the holidays, I have experienced a continuous dis-ease within, a dissonant inner hum, if you like. I am out of harmony and off balance, and as I am within, so I see without. My daily experience has confirmed my inner disharmony. Nothing has felt satisfying, and I have been operating in a continual state of “feeling off.”
Contemplating the Power of My Expectations
I spent time reflecting on the following passage from Chapter 9, Section II, Paragraph 5 of the Text of A Course in Miracles this week:
The message your brother gives you is up to you. What does he say to you? What would you have him say? Your decision about him determines the message you receive.
The message my brother gives me is up to me? My decision about him determines the message I receive? I knew the truth in these words as soon as I read them, and I realized that knowing their truth placed responsibility on me for embodying this truth in my life.
The Quest for Beauty
How do you define beauty when it comes to people? The entertainment and advertising industries invest heavily in convincing us that beauty comes in packages that we can buy. If we buy into their obvious and not-so-obvious hidden messages, we believe that beauty comes packaged in the right diet, the right workout routine, the right make-up or hair colour, the right clothes, the right product. Consider the money, time, and energy that people commit to trying to create or to keep up with the “right” or the latest look — the look that is determined by companies and industries whose focus is solely one of profit, and not your self-worth. True beauty doesn’t come in a package with a bar code or a price tag. It can’t be found in a membership or an external “look.” It can’t be painted on, coloured, draped, coordinated, or regimented. Real beauty shines from […]
Masquerade of Life (includes podcast)
Halloween isn’t the only day that many people wear masks and costumes. How many of us wear masks every day and pretend to be someone we aren’t in order to feel like we belong? How many of us are truly our authentic selves? I invite you to reflect on these questions: Have you added your own version of gossip about someone because everyone else was telling the latest and greatest news about other people and you wanted to feel included? Have you laughed at a joke that belittled a group of people or a gender because everyone else was laughing or because the joke-teller thought it was hilarious? Have you pretended that someone’s words didn’t hit hard and hurt deeply in order to play it cool? Have you pretended to be what you imagined someone else wanted so that they would like you and want to be your friend or partner? Have you subjected yourself […]
You Are More Than Enough
After years of working on my self-worth and learning to embrace my inner strength, why do I still struggle with going out to social functions on my own? I am worthy in and of myself, right? I am a strong, independent woman, right? Then, why did I agonize about going to a staff function for weeks? Why did I have to push myself to go? It has nothing to do with the people I work with. They are warm, wonderful people. The sticking point for me was that everyone would be bringing their partners, and I would go alone. I enjoy the freedom of being my own person and being able to make my own decisions, but I shrink in the face of couples-dominated situations. Why does all my inner growth and self-confidence shrivel and disappear? Why do tears sneak up and take me by surprise when I try to talk about this […]
My Prayer for Beginning a New School Year
As I contemplate the beginning of a new school year, I am filled with excitement about the community of learning and growing and caring that I will build with my students. I am also filled with acute awareness of the powerful influence we will have on one another. And so I pray from the deepest part of me: Dear God, I pray that each day… each hour… each moment… I am open to, and guided by, Your Love so that I may recognize and nurture the beautiful light that shines within each of my students. Help me to see who they truly are beneath any exterior defences they have erected, and guide me to help each of them see and embrace their own truth. I pray that every moment my students spend with me in our classroom is about learning and growing and moving ever closer to the people they are meant to become. I pray […]
Shedding the Need to be a Caregiver and a Fixer
Have you spent your life putting everyone else’s needs before your own? Have you struggled with the idea of putting yourself first? Have you believed that if you love and give of yourself enough, you can heal or fix someone else? Then you and I have shared a similar journey — to learn to overcome the need to “give of ourselves to others” and to learn to look after ourselves. When I look back, I can attribute some of my need to give, “do for”, fix, heal, and “make better” to the generation in which I was born. I am part of the cohort that transitioned from growing up with traditional female role models to forging our own way as independent women. Our mothers and grandmothers devoted their lives to their families. They modelled selfless giving and self-sacrifice as they cared for their families and put their needs first. I realize that part of my […]
Do You Feel Like You Don’t Belong?
Do you feel like you are on the outside looking in? Does it seem like everyone else finds their place within the ebb and flow of life, but you just can’t seem to find yours? Do you yearn to find a place where it feels that you fit, but it seems that belonging is a state for everyone else but you? After years of feeling this way, I have come to two realizations which I share with you in the hope that either one or both can be of some assistance and reassurance to you. We feel like we don’t belong when we search for validation of our worth from others and we don’t get it. We want to feel like we are “somebody,” and we look to others to make us feel valued. We try so hard to feel acceptance and recognition of our worth from others. We try to […]
Hatred Will Never Bring Peace
We hate, and often, we don’t even question or understand why. Hatred is passed down from generation to generation. The facts that fueled the hatred are unquestionable. Yes, atrocities have been committed. Yes, people have misused power over other groups. Yes, lives have been lost, people have suffered, and hearts still cry out in pain because of loss and injustice. But, we will never achieve peace through hate. Peace will only be achieved through love. We must leave the past in the past and start anew with a conscious choice to join hands in love and brotherhood. Holding onto the past only perpetuates separation and division. We pass our hatreds and prejudices to our children, and these negative forces continue to motivate attack and conflict throughout the world. We cannot focus on the wrongs of the past in order to move forward as a global community. The only way forward is through forgiveness. We must forgive the past […]
Where Do You Find Your Worth?
Are you searching for that special someone who will complete you? Do you look out at the world and believe that a partner will make you feel a sense of belonging? Do you think that being in a relationship will make you feel worthy? Your worth is not in a relationship. Your worth is in YOU. You are intrinsically worthy because you are a child of God. Are you striving for a certain position or the promotion that will validate your worth? Do you imagine the day when you will have a title that will proclaim your worth to the world? Or, are you frustrated and unhappy in the work that you do because you believe your worth is not recognized? Your worth is not in the work you do nor the positions you hold. Your worth is in YOU. You are intrinsically worthy because, at your essence, you are a Divine expression of God. Do […]