How Does True Forgiveness Feel?
Those of you who have followed my blog for a while know that I have struggled to practise forgiveness in my life. At first, it was a way for me to release emotional baggage that was weighing me down and keeping me stuck in negativity and blame. Then, as I opened into awareness of my spiritual identity, it became vitally important to me to truly forgive those whom I believed had hurt me and to be able to love them unconditionally. I wanted to be able to think of them and feel only love – no blame, no judgment, no hurt – only love. Each time, I thought that I had forgiven, events occurred to show me that even though my intent was to forgive, I hadn’t reached a state of true forgiveness.
Do We Create Our Own Emotional Pain?
Have you believed that you experienced hurt because of the actions and words of another? Have you experienced fear that you will be hurt again? Have you erected inner walls to protect yourself from further betrayal and emotional pain? If you are like me, you can answer a resounding yes to each of these questions. I am beginning to realize that because I believed that others had the power to hurt me, I created circumstances in which I experienced recurring emotional pain.
Going Deeper with Changing Our Thoughts
Last week, I wrote about having the power to control our thoughts. I shared my post with fellow students of A Course in Miracles, and thanks to their feedback and the clarity I received from further reflection and study this week, I want to correct and go deeper with what I wrote for you in the following paragraph: We do have the power to control our thoughts. Instead of letting our ego minds run away with our thoughts, we need to take control with our spiritual minds. How do we do this? We develop awareness of what is preoccupying our thoughts, one thought at a time. When a negative thought crosses our minds, we need to recognize it, stop it, and experience the stillness that is left when there is no thought… if only briefly, until the next thought comes, which will happen quickly at first. The spaces between thoughts will become longer […]
You Have Power Over Your Thoughts
A line in Lesson 44 of A Course in Miracles struck a deep chord within me this week: “Your thoughts cannot hold you to the world unless you give them the power to do so.” Left unchecked, our ego minds play endless tapes of criticism and judgment. How often do our unconscious thoughts assign blame and try to make someone else the “bad guy”? How frequently do we look for what’s wrong with others? This stream of blame, criticism, and judgment reflects our ego’s insatiable need to build up its shaky sense of self. We have to remember that all judgement is part of the ego’s world. The ego mind uses judgment to create separation between itself and others. It casts blame with the insane belief that it has to attack first to ensure its survival. The ego mind recognizes only other egos, and being like itself, the ego mind believes that if it doesn’t attack first, other egos will […]
Say No to Gossip… But Forgive Yourself When You Fall Back into the Trap
Have you realized the destructive power and negative energy that is created by gossip? Have you recognized what gossiping does, not only to the target of gossip, but to the perpetrators? Have you vowed that you wouldn’t gossip anymore because you want to create positive energy in your life and live according to higher principles of love and integrity? Sounds fine in theory, doesn’t it. I made a conscious choice several years ago that I would not gossip or participate in gossip by listening to it. I had it all planned out. I would avoid situations in which gossip frequently became the main topic of conversation. If someone approached me with a burning desire to tell all about what so-and-so was doing or what was happening to so-and-so, I would either excuse myself or steer the conversation in a more positive direction. After having lived in a glass house during my husband’s […]