Tag: self-discovery

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Help Our Children Discover Life Beyond Entitlement

O child of my heart, I wanted to give you everything… … lay the world at your feet …. make all your wishes come true … create a fairy tale existence of happily ever after. All for you, Child of my heart.   O child of my dreams, I wanted to give you everything I imagined I didn’t have growing up… … recognition of how special and worthy you are … opportunities to have and experience everything other kids got to enjoy … rewards for doing your best… and sometimes, not even your best. Every first… and second and third… every little thing… had to be recorded and displayed in honour of you and your life… … albums and digital folders and walls of photos … posts on social media seeking affirmation of all that I see in you. You were the star of everything you did. I made the world […]

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Love Isn’t a Feeling

On this beautiful Sunday morning, I savour the brilliant green of newly opened leaves. I breathe in the heady perfume of the lilac blossoms and smile at the sweetness of the birdsong. I thrill at the warmth of the sun’s kiss on my skin. Witnessing the beauty of God’s creation that surrounds me, I am moved to write about love. I have come to understand that love is not a word or a feeling. It is a way of being… it is being an expression of God. Love is living from a holy space within each of us — a space through which God’s eternal love is experienced and expressed in this world. Love is opening ourselves up to what is always here for us — even when we lose our way and feel completely lost and alone — and that is God’s Love. When we recognize who we are as God’s children […]

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All That You Seek Is Within You

It seems to me that everyone is searching… for  the perfect job, the perfect partner, the perfect home, the perfect look, the perfect vehicle, the perfect holiday, the perfect deal.. and the list goes on. One only needs to take note of people’s actions and comments over a short period of time to observe this endless quest. Just stand back and observe people in a shopping mall. Listen to people’s conversations over a meal or at coffee. Watch the media messages that bombard us every day. The underlying belief is that these external markers of success will make us happy. Hmmmm… questionable logic seems to be at work here. “When I have/get [insert wish here], I will be happy.” When did having or getting anything ever result in lasting happiness? Might you experience happiness in the attainment of something? Of course. You might experience excitement, a surge of joy, delight, or even a […]

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Roadblocks Help Us Find Our Way

How do you view the roadblocks that have appeared in your life? At times, has it seemed that your life journey seems to meet one obstacle after another? There were certainly times in my life when it seemed that no matter which way I turned, I ran into another roadblock. When I look back, I see my roadblocks through a different lens of understanding than I did when I was mired in the muck of frustration and blinded by emotional reactions that ranged from anger and rejection to hurt and despair. Along my road to self-discovery, I have learned that all I need is within me. Prior to realizing this, I spent most of the years of my life seeking love, worth, fulfillment, and happiness outside of me through travelling, partying, relationships, my work, involvement in organizations and groups, and striving to achieve and be the best I could possibly […]

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Stand Strong in Your Own Worth

Have you been like me and looked to find your worth reflected back from others? Have you sought approval in the words and actions of others? Have you tried to be what you thought others wanted, believing that your worth was found in what others think of you? It’s a tough place to be, isn’t it, because what you sense from others really has nothing to do with you. It has everything to do with them and what is going on in their lives, how they are feeling, what they are preoccupied with, and a host of other variables, none of which has anything to do with you. Trying to feel good about yourself based on how others respond to you is like trying to keep your footing in shifting sand. If you want to see your worth reflected back at you, look in the mirror and own who you […]

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Connecting Deeply with Another

Do you get frustrated with the superficial level of communication that often prevails in society? Do you dream of experiencing deep connections with other people? Look no further than recognizing who you are… and who everyone else is. Think about what can transpire when two people truly see who the other is… when they see each other spirit to spirit… and allow their energies and minds to join. I can tell you from experience. You create a space that is greater than the two of you — a space in which you share deeply and wisdom comes forth that speaks of knowing beyond what you can know at a physical level. This wisdom comes from your spiritual beings. We are not separate from one another. There is no boundary between your spiritual energy and mine. We are all connected as spiritual beings. It is only when we identify ourselves as bodies […]

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Who are you… really?

If I ask you this question, would you tell me your name? What if I asked you, “Who are you beyond your name?” Would you tell me what you do for a living? Who are you beyond your job title? Would you tell me that you are a female/male, father/mother/sister/brother, daughter/son, aunt/uncle, cousin, grandparent, friend, colleague? I want you to dig deeper. Who are you beneath labels? Would you respond that you are a person? Who are you as a person? Think more deeply. Who are YOU? You know what you see when you look in the mirror, but you are much more than a body. Wouldn’t you agree? Would you tell me that you are a personality with your own unique characteristics and traits? Would you say that you are a mind because you think your own thoughts? You are getting closer, but you are much more than that. […]

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Do You Choose Love or Fear?

We have all been hurt. The question is: what do we do with that hurt? Do we close down and erect walls around ourselves? Do we keep our guard up so that people can’t get close to us? Do we shut down so that we don’t get hurt again? Perhaps. When we are hurting, it is natural to withdraw and erect inner barriers to defend against future hurt. But another question arises: can you live fully with a closed heart? I have asked myself that very question. After my divorce, it took me a long time to open up to the possibility of a new relationship. When I did… and it ended… I experienced hurt again. I was tempted to withdraw and keep myself safe, but I realized that I had a choice. I could shut down inside so that no one could hurt me again, or I could stay […]

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Relationships Provide Our Greatest Teachers: Part 3 — Our Children

As I held you in my arms for the first time      and marveled at your tiny perfection,           how was I to know the magnitude of what you would teach me? As I felt my heart fill and open wide,      how was I to imagine what you would teach me            about the depth and breadth of unconditional love? As I felt the enormity of your complete dependence on me,      how was I to know that your trust and belief            would inspire me to become ever more of whom I am meant to be? How was I to know       that as your parent,           you would be my teacher? As I reflect on the lessons I have learned from my relationships, I realize that my […]

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When Our Children Leave Home

Where they were…           is only silence and empty space. My life’s focus is gone; Years of giving myself heart and soul… complete. This home,            once vibrant with the energy of their existence…                     rings quiet… And my heart cries out with missing them. I thought I was ready — I even looked forward to the time I would have…            and now that it’s here, all I want to do is go back. I wander through my memories,            pausing here and there to hold them close, to picture them as they were                     when they were mine; But they are no longer mine…           They never were. They came to this world through me,           but they are not mine. They experienced this world through my existence,     […]

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