You Are More Than Enough — You Are Magnificent!
Do you struggle with feeling that you are enough? Do you find yourself questioning your worth and the success of your life time and time again? What IS that measuring stick against which we compare ourselves and imagine that we come up short or that we are lacking in some way? How do we find and hold on to true knowing of our worth?
What Is That Inner Yearning for More?
Do you sometimes struggle with being in the world? Do you feel like you’re not of this world, that it seems to confront you at every turn, and yet you have to find a way to exist in it? Do you yearn for more, but you can’t seem to find what you seek in the world? I often feel like I’m a stranger here — that I don’t belong — and yet, I’m here. I have to find a way to be in this world, this world that feels too harsh, that often grates against the me that feels so sensitive, so tender, so not of this world.
Grounded in Uncertainty
There is no doubt that we are living in times of great upheaval and uncertainty. For so many of us, it seems that there is less and less to hold onto and to count on in our lives and in the world around us. Waves of change, unexpected losses, and seemingly insurmountable obstacles shadow the lives of so many. As turbulence weaves through the fabric of our lives, we experience fear and anxiety. Where do we turn for the support and security that we can’t seem to find in our outer worlds? How can we stand strong and grounded within the uncertainty that shadows our lives?
The Lenses We Choose Create Our Experience
Do you realize the power you have to create your experiences? It all comes down to the lenses that you choose to wear, and the lenses that you choose reflect what you believe. But wait? Doesn’t life happen to us? Don’t we just do our best to adapt to what transpires in our lives? This common belief assumes that we are victims of our circumstances. Rather, we are powerful creators, and we experience exactly what we expect to experience in any given situation.
Finding Our Way to CHRISTmas
As we rush about in the mad scramble to get ready for Christmas, how many of us pause to think about what we are getting ready for? Is all the shopping, baking, wrapping, meal planning, party preparation, and more shopping what Christmas is all about? Does the true meaning of Christmas get lost in all the hustle and bustle? As we greet everyone we see with “Merry Christmas,” how many of us contemplate what we are really wishing for others? As we decorate our homes and yards with lights and sparkle, how many of us experience inner light and sparkle? How many of us truly feel the love and joy that this season is supposed to be all about? Instead, we feel pressure to prepare and to be ready to welcome the arrival of friends and family to celebrate this festive holiday. And what about those of us who are alone and who do not get to experience […]
Shedding the Need to be a Caregiver and a Fixer
Have you spent your life putting everyone else’s needs before your own? Have you struggled with the idea of putting yourself first? Have you believed that if you love and give of yourself enough, you can heal or fix someone else? Then you and I have shared a similar journey — to learn to overcome the need to “give of ourselves to others” and to learn to look after ourselves. When I look back, I can attribute some of my need to give, “do for”, fix, heal, and “make better” to the generation in which I was born. I am part of the cohort that transitioned from growing up with traditional female role models to forging our own way as independent women. Our mothers and grandmothers devoted their lives to their families. They modelled selfless giving and self-sacrifice as they cared for their families and put their needs first. I realize that part of my […]
Love Isn’t a Feeling
On this beautiful Sunday morning, I savour the brilliant green of newly opened leaves. I breathe in the heady perfume of the lilac blossoms and smile at the sweetness of the birdsong. I thrill at the warmth of the sun’s kiss on my skin. Witnessing the beauty of God’s creation that surrounds me, I am moved to write about love. I have come to understand that love is not a word or a feeling. It is a way of being… it is being an expression of God. Love is living from a holy space within each of us — a space through which God’s eternal love is experienced and expressed in this world. Love is opening ourselves up to what is always here for us — even when we lose our way and feel completely lost and alone — and that is God’s Love. When we recognize who we are as God’s children […]
All That You Seek Is Within You
It seems to me that everyone is searching… for the perfect job, the perfect partner, the perfect home, the perfect look, the perfect vehicle, the perfect holiday, the perfect deal.. and the list goes on. One only needs to take note of people’s actions and comments over a short period of time to observe this endless quest. Just stand back and observe people in a shopping mall. Listen to people’s conversations over a meal or at coffee. Watch the media messages that bombard us every day. The underlying belief is that these external markers of success will make us happy. Hmmmm… questionable logic seems to be at work here. “When I have/get [insert wish here], I will be happy.” When did having or getting anything ever result in lasting happiness? Might you experience happiness in the attainment of something? Of course. You might experience excitement, a surge of joy, delight, or even a […]
We Experience What We Project
When we feel insecure, we project our insecurities onto the people we interact with. Then we perceive what we expect, which is validation of our insecurities. When we feel unloved or unworthy, that is what we project out into the world. We yearn to be validated and built up, but guess what we experience? We experience rejection, and we feel put-down and unappreciated. We experience what we expect. I grappled with the statement, “We create our own reality,” for a long time. There was so much heartbreak and emotional pain in my life. Who, in their right mind, would create that experience? The problem was that I wasn’t aware of what I was projecting out into the world. As I struggled with lack of self-worth, I created proof of that through my experiences. I perceived judgment and rejection from others. I perceived that I was less than others. I perceived what wasn’t actually there. […]
Great Big Love with a Capital L
Love is all there is. Love is all that sustains. Love is all that endures. Nothing, absolutely nothing, of this world lasts. In this time-bound world, everything is susceptible to decay and death. But there is one thing that endures and is always here for us, and that is Love. This Love with a capital L is love far beyond the word that is tossed around with such careless abandon to express what we are drawn to in the material world. How often do we hear, “Oh, I just love that outfit/photo/car/—-!” This Love also goes beyond the expression of emotional attachment between two individuals when they fall in “love.” It even goes beyond the love of a parent for a child. In the human experience, love is often limited, conditional, and finite. Love can be withdrawn. Love can even end in this physical existence. This is not great big […]