Empower Yourself to Be a Change Agent
How many of us feel heartsick about the discrimination and prejudice that continues to create division and conflict in our world? How many of us wish we could do something but feel powerless to create change? I’m here to tell you that you can make a difference. It is up to each of us to empower ourselves to have the courage and heart to BE the change we wish to see in the world.
The Trust Implicit in Transition
When we are faced with change in our lives, it seems that many of us resist and cling to what is known… even if that no longer serves us. We are filled with fear because change requires that we let go of the edge that we are so familiar with and dive into unknown waters. Letting go and entering these waters requires trust. It requires trust in every moment, every single day… and I am living that call to trust.
Self-Creating Emotional Pain
Have you experienced feelings of emotional pain because of what you perceived in someone’s reaction to you? Has this hurt surfaced again and again to monopolize your thoughts and clutch your heart in its tight grip? At a later point, have you realized that you created your own pain and that there was no intention of hurt by that person?
Only We, Ourselves, Can Make Life Better for Us
Have you ever believed that someone else could make your life better for you — that somehow, in some way, attaching your life to someone else was the secret to a full and happy life? Have you imagined your “dream come true” or your “life happily ever after” because being with someone else was going to make it better? I certainly did… three times. And three times, I had to restart and find healing and my way forward on my own. I think I have finally realized the lesson. First of all, I attached my dreams for my happy future to a man whom I met while I attended the University of Sydney in Australia. He was my first love, and when my year of studies was done and I had to return to Canada, I focused all my energies on working and earning enough money to return to Australia […]
Spring or Winter — Renewal or Death — Love or Fear?
Happy Spring to everyone who lives in the Northern Hemisphere, and especially to anyone who is emerging from the long months of winter to the promise of spring! The warmth of the sun’s rays and the lengthening daylight hours ignite a palpable yearning for the first sightings of new growth and GREEN. We long to throw off the darkness and cold of winter when we retreat from the starkness and seeming death of our environment. At the beginning of winter, I always welcome the cozy “burrowing in” that happens as we retreat to the warmth and light of our homes. It feels good to nestle in, but after several months, that feeling becomes a soul-deep yearning for the life-affirming changes that spring brings. Yesterday, as I enjoyed the intoxicating freshness of the spring winds and the pungent smells of the earth yielding its frozen bonds to the liberating caresses of […]
“A-HA” Moment Two — Gaining Insight into Awareness
In my last post, I shared with you the first of two “A-Ha” moments I experienced during the past week. In this post, I want to share with you the second one, for which my gratitude goes to Michael A. Singer, author of the untethered soul — the journey beyond yourself. His writing led me to a profound realization that has freed me from worrying about the emotional pain and anger that continues to arise within me from time to time. Because it continues to be triggered by people and events in my life, I have worried about the extent of my healing and my ability to forgive. I have stressed about my seeming inability to move forward on my spiritual journey. Through Michael’s words of wisdom, I have realized that this pain and anger arises, but it also fades. It comes and it goes, but it isn’t who I […]
The Gift Inherent in Allowing
In the past, I always tended to be a control freak when it came to my life. I wanted to make sure that I had everything planned out to the nth degree, and just in case I had missed something, I’m sure I amused God with my passionate, heartfelt promises never to ask for anything again, if only this one thing could happen in my life. I thought that if I could get everything lined up… and I could convince God to side with me just this once… I would make things happen my way. Are you shaking your head at me? Are you chuckling at my naivete? As I look back on my life, I chuckle at me and realize that my report card for the subject of “Arranging My Life” would indicate a need for remedial help. As a teacher, I might even suggest that, as a student, […]
A New Kind of Resolution
How many of us begin the New Year by lamenting over our bodies and resolving to exercise more and eat a more healthy diet? We begin with great determination and, in a matter of time, we lose our resolve and lapse back into old habits of eating and drinking too much of what isn’t good for our bodies and choosing to relax in front of a screen instead of exercising our bodies. I am suggesting a new kind of resolution: instead of criticizing the faults that we perceive in our body’s appearance and resolving to work our bodies into shape, let us resolve to love our bodies and to be grateful for all that our bodies do to keep us healthy and moving every single moment of every day. There has been a lot written about the law of attraction. From my own experience, I know that the kind of […]
Reflections on the Dawning of the New Year
As I reflect on the year that is winding down to its final hours and contemplate the year that beckons with its clean slate, I am filled with gratitude for the inner growth I have made and anticipation for the lessons that await me. I am reminded that my life is a journey, and that this evening provides an opportunity to pause and to look back from this vantage point. It is a time to appreciate the winding and sometimes convoluted path I have traveled to get me to where I am right now. It is also a time to imagine where I want my life path to take me in the coming weeks and months. I hope that you will join me in your own celebration of how far you have traveled on your life path this year. Let us reflect on and give thanks for the following: the progress we have made […]
Forgiveness Is More Than a One-Shot Deal
How many times do we need to forgive before there are no more layers of hurt and betrayal to peel back? I can’t give you a definitive answer. It seems trite to say as many times as you need to forgive, but it is true. I have been working on forgiving those with whom I have experienced the greatest hurts for years now, and I’m still not there. I still haven’t reached a place where there is nothing left to forgive… where I can say with complete truth that I hold nothing but love in my heart for them. If I told you that all I ever feel is love when I think of these people, I would be lying to you and to myself. I can tell you that there are times when I genuinely feel compassion, understanding, and love for them, but then when I least expect it… more […]