A Course in Miracles
See Fear For What It Is
Do you seek change in your life? Do you yearn to do and experience more? Do you want to embrace life fully and completely and yet… when that change beckons or when opportunities arise, you shrink from them because of the fear that causes your heart to hammer and your chest to constrict?
My Call to Release My Inner Critic
Are you hard on yourself? Are you your own worst critic? I certainly have been my whole life, and it seems that my body is sending me a strong message that constant self-criticism has not only been hard on my self-esteem; it has taken a toll on my physical health.
Fear Only Has the Power That We Give It
It seems that I have allowed fear and all of its manifestations — self-doubt, insecurity, self-blame, guilt, self-criticism and judgment — to have far too much power in my life. You see, I believed that fear was something beyond my control; that I was at the mercy of frightening events that could happen to me. I didn’t realize that I was the only one giving fear its power over me. In fact, fear has no power over us, unless we give it.
New Year’s Resolutions with a Twist
I would like to propose a new kind of resolution as we begin the new year — resolutions that have none of the guilt that most of our pledges arise from after the weeks of excess during the holiday season. We feel guilty about all the rich food that we have eaten, our lack of exercise and physical activity, all the liquid Christmas cheer that we have imbibed, and all the money that we have spent. Our guilt inspires impassioned vows to exercise regularly, to eat a healthy diet, to detox our bodies, to live within a budget, to pay off our credit cards… to make any number of surface changes that we hope will make us feel better about ourselves.
Profound Inner Guidance
New responsibilities in my position at work are challenging my fears and insecurities and bringing me face-to-face with more inner work that I need to do. You see, the classroom is my comfort zone, and it is there with my students that I feel secure in the community that we create together and confident in the learning opportunities that I create and present for them. My new responsibilities take me beyond the classroom and involve planning and presenting professional development for my colleagues. Suddenly, the confident, competent teacher falls prey to anxiety that confronts her at every turn — anxiety that plays constant messages of self-doubt and perceived judgment. My old nemesis is back — fear of knowing and embracing my own worth. What learning is there in this for me? As my mind filled with anxious rehashing of what had happened prior to and during my first presentation to staff, I received a clear, direct soul message that told me exactly what I need to do.
What Happens When We Go Off the Rails?
This question came up in discussion with a dear friend yesterday. We were talking about the issues that still trip us up and cause us to derail from our journey toward truly knowing our own worth and living each moment from that inner knowing. We easily recalled times when we “owned” our worth and allowed the light of our own brilliance to flow. Why couldn’t we maintain that momentum? What happened to cause us to go off the rails and get mired down in old fears and doubts again?
Where Do We Find the Love That We Seek?
The words to the chorus of “Where Is Love?” from the musical Oliver kept playing in my head this week:
Where is love?
Does it fall from skies above?
Is it underneath the willow tree
That I’ve been dreaming of?
Oliver’s search for love speaks to our hearts because we all know that yearning to find the love that is meant for only us,. We seek that special love that will speak to our hearts and fill us with its beauty. We look for that love that will make us feel special.
Self-Creating Emotional Pain
Have you experienced feelings of emotional pain because of what you perceived in someone’s reaction to you? Has this hurt surfaced again and again to monopolize your thoughts and clutch your heart in its tight grip? At a later point, have you realized that you created your own pain and that there was no intention of hurt by that person?
In Honour of Fathers Who Choose to be Dads
I will always remember the wise words of a young girl as she explained the names she used for her step-father and her father. She used Dad to refer to her step-father and Father to refer to her biological father, because “anyone can be a father; not everyone is a real dad.” I thought of her innocent wisdom often during the years in which my own children ached for their father to choose to be a dad and to put them first. I write this letter on behalf of children who yearn for dads they can truly honour on Father’s Day and who put them first every day.
A New Kind of Resolution
How many of us begin the New Year by lamenting over our bodies and resolving to exercise more and eat a more healthy diet? We begin with great determination and, in a matter of time, we lose our resolve and lapse back into old habits of eating and drinking too much of what isn’t good for our bodies and choosing to relax in front of a screen instead of exercising our bodies. I am suggesting a new kind of resolution: instead of criticizing the faults that we perceive in our body’s appearance and resolving to work our bodies into shape, let us resolve to love our bodies and to be grateful for all that our bodies do to keep us healthy and moving every single moment of every day. There has been a lot written about the law of attraction. From my own experience, I know that the kind of […]